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Have Your Kids Outgrown Their Room Design?
Their bedroom themes of trucks and princess are in the past. Now they want to redesign the room to be “their” room. How much decision authority do they get? Does their age make a difference? How do you come to a reasonable agreement regarding the changes? |
my daughter was three when we did her room in Dora and now it seems she more into the Disney princesses so at least the color theme of pink and purple won't be changed but all the stickers on the wall will have to come down.
Our youngest is REALLY tired of her color scheme (we let her do black and lavender).
Yes! Our son used to love the color green. We painted two walls green ---- and it's bright green!!! He loves Pokemon, so he has Pokemon curtains to go with that. He now wants it Carolina Panthers theme! So, now are going to get around to that theme soon.
Our boys were really into "Cars" for several years. I really didn't feel like going all out at the time because I knew they'd out grow it eventually. We painted the walls white, applied some re-stick-able wall art and I got some curtains from Ebay. (cheaper than buying the fabric from Walmart and making them myself or I would have done that). We bought blue comforters and then I made some "knot" blankets from Cars fleece. I will probablyl redecorate similarly when they're ready for change.
Yes, my son's room was decorated in a firetruck theme as a nursery at six he is always coming up with new ideas for his room theme. We are waiting thinking of doing a more neutral color theme so it will last longer than a year ot two.
A few years ago my daughter wanted a "surfer girl" room. We painted her room a very pretty water blue and she has a grass skirt around her bed and Hawaiian flowers on her bed set, ans she still loves it. She is about to be 9 and has had this for about 3 years now but its seems so netral, not really a chartoon character theme, that she has no desire to change it. It gets expensive changing themes.
I've helped my sister and her daughter move through three different themes now and we avoided spending a fortune. Here's the tips I gave her. Choose wall colors you like and are more "grown up." For most kids pink is pink, and it's a pain to repaint so look for more neutral shades. Use accesories to bring in louder shades of color so it still feels playful and fun. Put things like Dora or Cars decals on cardboard and then frame them. Look really cheap art, plus when they outgrown them you can easily switch them out for boy bands and sports teams.
We've redone our kids rooms several times each. We keep the wall colors the same (beige), yet transform the room with other stuff. My daughters last theme was ballet. I bought pink shimmery material for curtains, found a large stick-on for the door, hit thrift stores, and bargin stores for statues, and pictures. Then hit Dollar tree and bought net butterflies and dragonflies, that we suspended from the ceilings. I also got cheap ivy, and flowers garland to drape around stuff, used a couple of her many boas to wrap around stuff, and painted cheap picture frames sparkley and put family and friends in them. Her room was awesome, for about 30 bucks. Now, she's gotten older (that was 4 years ago) and I am in the middle of taking the ballet part down, but rearanging the rest to make a girly girl type room. My son was basically the same, but he basically just wanted the wall stickers, and border stickers and pictures. My theory is...as long as you don't have to cut holes in the walls, and it can be done fairly easy....it's fair game!
I have A 14 year old Daughter and a 4 year old Son I found that if you stick with just a few accessories like sheets and bed spreads they change there mind about the time that the bedding has worn out anyway. When the theme changes pick a fun but neutral color so it can go from princesses to Rainbows or trains to Skateboards.
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
I have a 10 year old that decided that she needed a grown up room!! So I took her to Home Depot and let her pick out 2 colors of paint. She picked Disney paint. Fairest of Them All and Pretty in Pink!! Oh so grown up. We then picked out some new furniture. A canopy bed and matching night stand and chair. We ended up with the most perfect 10 year olds room ever!! The best part was picking out all the parts together!! I can't wait for the next time she wants a change!!
My children are grown, but my grandchildren get to choose their own colors, etc. within reason. My middle granddaughter's room was decorated with pink ballerina bears when she was born and was recently redone in navy, light blue and white with Yankee baseball logos!! She's a little tomboy and can't understand why Mommy originally chose ballerina bears for her!!
Luckily we were able to change a very girly pink walled room (with hearts everywhere) into a more mature pink and brown room by adding brown bedding and more sophisticated wall hangings. It has changed from little girl to tween/teen with very little investment.
My boys are still young, but I am letting them choose the basic idea(s) of what they want in their room. They're going for trains and airplanes. I then make the decisions about how best to do the room so they will love it!
My 7 yr old started out with Princess, but has changed to guitars and SKULLS?!! Where did my baby go?? LOL
- Deb said:
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
My grand-daughter is 11 and has loved pink all her life. So that has not been a problem in her room. For Christmas/birthday this year (2009) we went shopping and totally re-did her bedding. We bought new sheets, bed skirt and comforter. All this matches her curtains....thank goodness! Have you been shopping for bedding? Even the cheap stuff is expensive. We went just below middle of the road because I figure by the time she is 16, she will want something different. Don't we all?I normally do not combine Christmas and birthdays but we talked it over and she said yes to it. Her birthday is not in December but close to it and this Grandma does have a budget for such things.
- Deb said:
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
Hi Deb,We charged rent. We had one (1 out of 4) who just did not want to leave. He wasn't going to school and once we hit him in the pocket book AND stopped buying him anything he started looking for an apt. He had a choice of smaller rent with use of the kitchen or higher rent and eat with us. We gave him a rental contract. He was hurt and upset but needed to grow up. He decided to move out with friends. And every few years tries to move back in with us. We have to laugh. We don't know what it is about him that he really doesn't want to leave the nest. He tells us he wants to take care of us! Good luck!
- Deb said:
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
after mine got old enough to work they had to start paying $25 a week for rent. No where near what it would cost them away from home but after school it got to be more. You will have to redo the room anyways when she leaves the nest so have her help do it YOUR WAY. Say it is being set up as a guest room this time so that when you find your own space we want have to make to many changes. Maybe she can pick the bedding and drapes as then that would be all you would have to change out. Unless she does like mine and takes the furniture as well. Talk to your husband and see how he feels about the idea of her paying rent at home. Just be prepaired as she might not take it to well but a learning lesson as well and at least helps with groceries or something while she is there or put back for holidays.
I have 2 grandkids that are with me a lot. She is 4 so purple and pink anything works for her. When we get into our new house each will have their own room for when they are here. I plan to do her room in a soft lavender and then let her help pick the bedding and drapes and go from there. She will have a budget. Loved the idea of hawaii theme as it would grow with her. Now my grandson is a different story. He is helping to make a short loft type bed. That way he will have 2' or a little more of storage area under it. He can have a small chest, & desk slide in and out under it for home work or projects yet still floor room to play. He has decided he wants his room done in reptiles. Namely snakes. I HATE SNAKES. But we will compramise he is painting his bed posts and frame green as it is lumber then the walls will be a softer color. He can put posters up in his room for the reptiles he still plans to paint snakes on the legs of bed but we will see there. He is 8 so I know it will change some as he gets older. Plus still into dragons so guess it still fits together and will hopefully work for a long time.
my 2 boys rooms are blue and another one is green. i have been through a pooh room-dino room and now space (with dino and pooh all togeather) then with my youngest it was tonka trucks (but i couldnt find enough stuff) so then i changes it to cars, trucks, planes and trainsi love useing those wall stickers - the kids can do it themselves and at most times u can find them at the dollar store! then of course the cheap artworkwhen i did pooh i had bees all around his room but i ran out of them so instead of buying more all i did was scan and print them on heavy cardstock then cut them out - put them up with that putty stuff teachers use in classrooms - and u couldnt tell them apart from the real onesi think that when the kids get older 'santa' might help them decorate thier room with themed bed sheets -curtians - comforter- ect...
- Deb said:
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
I would definitely vote with your husband on this one. When the complaint of "I want my room redone" comes up, I would respond with something like, "Dad and I like this room the way it is. I bet you're gonna love decorating your own place," And leave it at that. The more comfortable you make your children, the longer they will hesitate making that adult step to independence. P.S. Don't do her laundry for her and don't buy special things at the grocery store that only she likes. Sometimes a little discomfort is a healthy thing.
All 3 of my girls went through this. They all started with the pink/purple/princessy theme. When they hit the tween age they wanted a change, and always incorporated black in it. (One went with black and teal -- she was a tween of the 90's; the other went with black and sea green.) Now that my middle one is a full fledge teen, she wants that slick modern Ikea look. She's still deciding her color theme. My youngest is still in the sea-princess theme, but is will become a tween next month, so I'm ready and waiting for her new ideas!
My oldest daughter moved out and my son decided he wanted her room. He loves sports so my middle daughter offered up her artistic talents (didn't get them from me) and made a HUGE Red Sox "B" on the dormer, and on one of the walls she re-created the Fenway 'Green Monster'. We had intended to fill in the boxes with random scores but then my son decided he wanted to be able to write them in during games, so we left them blank and got him some chalk. (you don't really need the expensive chalkboard paint - it erases fine off regular paint) we also found cardboard cut-outs of baseball players at a party store. He loves his new room and soon I'm going to be motivated enough to turn the old one into an exercise room..........
- Deb said:
My daughter is 21 and still lives at home. About 3 years ago we did her room in the neon gerberia daisies and I thought that that would be the end of it for her til she moves out (at this point it feels more like if she moves out). But know she wants to redoe it again and I thought about doing it for her for Christmas. I would definitley do the walls in a neutral color at this point. My husband said no because it will make her feel more settled in. I am thinking it would have a fairly fresh coat of paint and we could easily fix it into a guest room if that big day comes around. Does any one out there have a similar situation with an adult child? How did you handle it? Thank you for your input!
My daughter decided to move out when we told her that even thought she was over eighteen, she was expected to follow our rules when living under our roof. She was to let us know where she was and what time to expect her back (not really a curfew, but not coming in at all hours of the night either). She wouldn't be staying over at her boyfriends nor was he allowed to stay at our house. She was expected to help out around the house (that did her in I think). She was to either go to school or have a job. We would feed her, but she was responsible for any other finances including her cell phone bill, insurance, car expenses... We also told her that she would be paying rent unless she was going to college.
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