Remember romance? How you’d snuggle up next to your guy in the car without having to check whether the child seat was secure? Or how the two of you used to walk hand-in-hand through the park unencumbered by the stroller, diaper bag, dog, and little Trevor. (Trevor? Where’s Trevor!) Or how about those late-night times when you’d look deeply into each other’s eyes and no one would nod off?
If you’d like/wish/need these moments to return, then don’t wait for inspiration to strike your busy man. Take romance into your own hands. But we know you’re busy, too. So here is a bouquet of creative and colorful little ways to help love blossom again.
Remind him of how you met. But do it in a fun, frivolous way. For example, if it was on a blind date, give him a new pair of Ray-Bans. Get the idea?
Go mini-golfing. The playful tension it creates will make both of you feel like kids again.
Talk sexy—in public. Call him at work or whisper in his ear at the grocery store what you’d like to do later (other than laundry, of course). Being suggestive in public is doubly arousing.
Rent a love shack. Leave him a note with directions and a key to the hotel room you’ve reserved for the night or weekend. The note should tell him to bring nothing—you’ve taken care of it all.
Shower him with appreciation. Once a day, spontaneously tell him you appreciate something he’s done or you admire a certain quality he has. It’ll boost his ego and (bonus!) make him more appreciative of you.
Play Battleship (without the kids). Draw your clothes and his on two paper grids. You say E5; he loses his shirt!
Create a fantasy box. Write down five of your secret desires and invite your guy to do the same, then drop them into an empty tissue box. Once a week, take turns drawing one out and following through.
Keep it simple. Kiss your guy good-bye each morning and say hello each night. Therapists say these two simple gestures break the downward spiral of inattentiveness and can build romance and save marriages.
Comments from Members
We always kiss each other good night. We always kiss each other before leaving somewhere even just to the store. And we promised to always say goodbye even if we are angry/mad at each other. You don't want to regret not having a chance to say your last goodbye.
thanks for reminding me. even the small act of appreciation works wonders, both ways giving and getting.
Romance for us has been long gone, guess just get into the act of just being there. Children rearing and so forth. Work for him and I, ( am a SAHM but, we raise dobermans and that's work in its self, plus the house and got our grandson to raise as well. So romance eh?? I seen some of those things there, and well 2 is feasible for us.Just need the time I suppose to go a little further!
Once a week add a little candle light to your dinner, it will make it more relaxing not to mention romantic. Or write I LOVE YOU on the bathroom mirror before going to bed so when he gets up in the morning it will be the first thing he sees!! ( I use pink or red lipstick ). I also slip a little I LOVE YOU note in his lunch. Nothing much but it is the little things and gestures in life you often remember the most that are priceless and unforgetable. Kathy
We just celebrated our 24th year together and some people will say "how do you do it?" You just remember to have fun together, laugh together, and not take each other for granted all the time, because yes we do have a tendancy to do that. It's only human nature to get into the same routine of life and forget about the affection you desire and want or once had.
I posted this on another list but we text each other several times a day to say I love you or I miss you or much naughtier things. It keeps us connected without taking large amounts of time out of our day. When we see each other at the end of the day we always kiss hello. I tell him often that he is handsome and sexy because he is. We hold hands, we sit close and sometimes in public I'll tell him something a little naughty like suggested above or squeeze his butt or something to let him know that not only do I love him. I want him.
