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Keys to a Happy Marriage
For some, a great marriage comes easily; for others, it takes a little more work. What do you do to keep the spark alive with your spouse? |
I think staying playful and laughter helps so much.
Making it a point to do one thing(even a small thing) for that person each day that they may not have expected. Get up early and make the coffee instead. Offer to pick up the kids today. Call and ask how their day is going. A few extra minutes a day can add years to a marriage life span.
After 36 years, my best advice is not to expect the fairy tale. The reality is a lot better. Accept that you are both very different people; do what you are both interested in together, but don't be afraid to have seperate activities. Make the "together time" memorable for you both. We take daily, long walks through the woods, summer and winter.
-For the women that stay home with the kids-I'd have to say try to great your Husband at the door with a kiss, hug, I love you or an I missed you. Be excited to see him not just excited because he is home to help with the kids. It will make him feel special to you!
Be respectful of each other and listen to one another-even if it may seem boring. Communication & honesty are the key. Also-even if your not in the mood for the full loving- just snuggling works. I tuck my husband in every night and lay with him until he falls asleep.I am up late due to our handicapped son every night. I make his lunch everydat and put some kind of chocolate in it to sweeten his day. We have been together 15 years and this is the 2nd marriage for both of us.
My husband meets me at the door every day when I get home from work with a kiss and asks me how my day went. He works nights so he is just waking up when I get home. He opens doors for me and when we eat dinner he insists I get my plate first. He is very respectful of my feelings.
We remember our manners daily: "please" "thank you" "would you mind?" "can I help you" go a long long way. Manners cost nothing. We also have "date night" one evening every week. This is our time to re-connect with each other. We go to dinner, don't discuss the daily rigors of our lives or try to solve the problems of the world and simply enjoy each other's company and share stories that make us laugh. We take turns picking new restaurants to try and head out for a new adventure! I find myself loving him more with each passing day!
I pray for wisdom. Many days i love him and there are many days that i don't even like him.
- Gloria said:
I think staying playful and laughter helps so much.
Pay attention! It is so important to listen and truly pay attention. Pay attention to what your spouse likes and dislikes, what their moods are, what chores they realy can't stand (and offer to do it for them), when the just need a moment alone, and when they realy need to talk. My husband and I make a point to talk about anything and everything at least once a day, and give extra physical attention on top of that. A foot rub, or back rub, hugs, hugs are great and stress releiving, and lots of kisses. XXXOOO5 years and more in love than ever
Taking a vacation seems to work for us. It puts a little adventure into our life. So save up and change it up. lol
To keep things alive I post little notes around the house for him. Some are invitations for a date, some are short love notes, others just goofy drawings. I also buy greeting cards and place them under his pillow or in his shaving kit when he travels. We rarely pass up the opportunity to play footsy under the table when we go to dinner. It is so many little things that seem to make a big difference.
- Jennifer said:
Making it a point to do one thing(even a small thing) for that person each day that they may not have expected. Get up early and make the coffee instead. Offer to pick up the kids today. Call and ask how their day is going. A few extra minutes a day can add years to a marriage life span.
Laughter, commuication, and appreciation are the key I think. Sreaming and throwing stuff never resolves anything. Just talk it out when you have an issue. Be silly and laugh and always, always say "thank you".
Always keep in mind the positive. Love conquers all!!! When I start thinking of all the things my husband could be, or should be doing, I start to think of all the things that HE DOES do. Keeps me in line, also reminds me that I'm not perfect and I could be doing alot more as well.
Communication!!! And always tell him I LOVE YOU!
- Sarah said:
-For the women that stay home with the kids-Id have to say try to great your Husband at the door with a kiss, hug, I love you or an I missed you. Be excited to see him not just excited because he is home to help with the kids. It will make him feel special to you!
Every Thursday, my husband and I have send our daughter off to her Grandmothers to spend the night. This is our night and we usually dance until after 1:00 in the morning. Same songs, same dances most of the time. But it's so much fun. We in effect "have an affair" every Thursday. Hey, don't criticize, it works! The 19th of this month will be 33 years together.
I agree about laughter. I'll do something completely silly if it gets a laugh out of him, I'm his little ham!
I think not worrying about the past so much and focusing on the future.
Pay attention to each other! With so many other things going on - work, kids, everything else - even when you are together, you're often so busy with activities that you don't even bother paying attention to each other.
Greeting at the door is what my husband wants the most when he comes home.
Acknowledge the little things he or she does. Even if it is something as simple as putting his clothes in the laundry hamper. The statement ~ Thank you, I appreciate that you did (whatever it was, be specific) goes a long way. Sometimes life gets in the way and we begin to expect what should never be taken for granted, and that is every little thing our loved one does!
I was married for 26 1/2 years to a wonderful man and I think that our marriage was so great because we respected each other. He was not only my husband but my best friend. We laughed all the time. We sat and talked every day. We enjoyed each other even if it was just watching tv we would hold hands. We spent a lot of our time doing the parent thing but we made the point of taking that time for us. We always did for each other and I think all these things combined kept the spark going in our marriage. And then one night we went to bed and only I woke up----and so kiss your husbands and tell them how much you love them every night-Luckily we did and even though I miss him so much I do have happy memories and the comfort of knowing that his last words on this earth were "I LOVE YOU"
I text my husband every few days, just to tell him that I think I am lucky that I have him. I try to treat him like what he really is "the love of my life". It is easy to forget that in the day to day goings on of life with two kids. I do not ever want to forget or take it for granted.
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